Should You Have a First Look?
We are all familiar with the tradition of couples not supposed to be seeing one on another on their big day. It is considered to be bad luck. We hear it all the time in romance movies, tv shows, and on the internet. However, just like with any tradition and/or custom over time, it evolves. And now we have a new and timeless custom known as “the first look.” The first look has has become very popular and gives the couple a chance to have an enchanted and intimate moment.
A first look is when a couple chooses to see each other in their full wedding attire before the ceremony. In order for this to arranged, the couple will get dressed in their respective areas (the bride prepares in the bridal suite and the groom gets dressed in the grooms suite) and will meet at specific place in the venue. Usually one of them will head there first and wait, typically the groom. And once he turns around to see the bride, they share a moment that is emotional, intimate, and romantic.
The question for today is “Should couples do a first look?” And the answer really varies by couple. But here are three reasons why you should consider a first look.
It will save you some time. The majority of your wedding portraits will take place before the ceremony. This will free up some time for the couple and they’ll be able to enjoy the cocktail hour and reception with the guests.
You’ll be able to share a moment that is intimate, quiet, and private. Before the ceremony. One of my favorite elements about the first look is the intimate, emotional, and romantic moment that the couple shares together. It is also private and uninterrupted as it will be only time to have a moment like that before the ceremony. It will also be getting captured on camera.
You’ll ease any pre-wedding nerves you might have. It’s your big day. All eyes will be on you, of course you’re going to be nervous. A good pre-wedding hug and kiss will calm all those nerves. That’s one of the biggest and best benefits for the First Look. It allows the couple to be comfortable and connect. It actually makes everything better. And the day goes on much smoother.
Now, here are three reasons why couples would not consider a first look.
You’re breaking tradition. Couples who want to follow tradition of not seeing each other until meeting and exchanging vows at the altar should not do a first look. The good thing about following the tradition is that it help builds up the anticipation and suspense to seeing your bride walk down aisle.
First looks require an earlier start time on hair and make-up. Everybody will have to wake up earlier. More travel arrangements to be considered. And earlier breakfast times. It can work in your favor if the wedding is taking place in the evening. Not so much if your wedding is in the morning or afternoon. Plus if you’re set on a specific number on the budget, you might want to consider that you’'ll be paying the photographer and videographer extra.
There’s added pressure to react a certain way. Some couples get very nervous when its time to meet. And because the photographer and videographer will be present, it might not be considered private. And because of the moment being captured on camera, some couples will feel pressured to react in a way that is not authentic. Sometimes, the couple is not going to be so emotional or react in a shocking manner. And that’s okay. You have to do what works for you.